Not So Blast from the Past

I never thought I’d share these screenshots, but they perfectly illustrate why self-worth matters—and why it’s crucial to walk away from ego-driven, manipulative people. If this resonates with you, take it as a sign to stop settling for less. The timing of this popping up in my memories, especially with the energies we’re in right now, is chef’s kiss 🤌🏽 perfect! Haha—I get to see just how far I’ve come.

When these memories appeared, Venus was in retrograde (March 1 – April 15, 2025), Mercury too (March 15 – April 7, 2025), and we’d just had a full moon lunar eclipse in Libra on March 14, 2025, marking the start of eclipse season. It was a time of intense karmic energy and fated events—some very welcome, others not so much. Every ending leads to a new beginning, and it’s all part of the process. Seeing these screenshots definitely sparked some discomfort but also pride and happiness—because I can see how much I’ve grown since then.

This guy was a recurring ghost from my past—a so-called “friend with benefits” who’d pop up out of nowhere. We met around 2003, and while we only had a handful of minor encounters, I was so delusional. I convinced myself he liked me, that he wanted to spend time with me. I was gaslit like crazy. My boundaries were weak, and my self-worth was in the gutter.

I bought him things. I always drove. I always made the effort—he never did. Yet I convinced myself he cared. He texted me first sometimes, and that was enough for me to think he wanted me. The reality? He manipulated me just enough to keep me hooked—only when it suited him. He always had an excuse for why I had to go to him, and I fell for it. It was never about friendship or mutual effort. It was one-sided, just like these conversations. Looking back, I see how I abandoned myself every single time.

And this? This was just one example. Some weren’t even romantic partners—just friends who treated me the same way. The same manipulative, selfish patterns. But by the time I received these messages, I’d started to wake up. I was learning to speak my mind and reclaim my confidence. It had been five years since I’d really heard from him—and then, out of nowhere, a follow request on IG. I let him in again—only for him to try the same crap all over.

Looking at it now, it’s so obvious. That post wasn’t even about him—it was about something meaningful that happened at work. But his response? Another attempt to make it about him. What’s not shown here are his messages saying, “When are you coming to Cali? Come see me. I miss you.” Classic manipulation—pull me back in, make me feel like a piece of 💩 delulu.

At the time, I was deep in heart healing—grieving a real love that ended tragically, but also healing past relationship patterns. Another person from my past had also popped up, and I finally started seeing these patterns for what they were. Then, my twin flame entered my life just before this exchange—a year or so earlier. That’s when I really started to understand what a twin flame was and what it meant. I’d love to say I’d fully broken these patterns by then, but in truth, that was just the beginning of seeing them—and healing them. My abandonment wounds, rejection wounds, daddy issues, mommy issues—all of it came up at once. Because that’s what twin flames do, right? They mirror your wounds and force you to face them.

I saw myself slipping again, falling for breadcrumbs from my twin flame. Same cycle, different person. He might not have even realized the impact his behavior had on me—but it triggered every wound I was trying to heal. The connection was real, but so were the wounds it brought up. He might not have realized it, but I did. And I had to face it. I had to heal it and let go. That heart healing is no joke! 😵‍💫😮‍💨 I started to understand why separation is necessary during this healing phase. The mirroring and triggers are real!!!! 😅😅😅

Because even when you know who your twin flame is, it doesn’t mean they get to treat you poorly. Yes, you share a divine purpose. Yes, you’re destined to be together. But that doesn’t mean you accept less than you deserve just because the connection is strong. Twin flame or not—self-respect comes first.

Those messages? They weren’t just another exchange. They were me setting boundaries. They were me standing up for myself, holding my integrity, and speaking my truth. I wasn’t falling for it anymore. And after that day, I blocked him. I also set boundaries with my twin flame and removed his access to me. It’s been difficult, but it’s been the best for me…for us in the long run.

If you find yourself in a situation like this, let this serve as a wake-up call: you deserve better. You deserve people who reciprocate your love and support just as much as you do theirs. You don’t owe anyone access to you—not just because they ask, even if they’re family members, your twin flame, soulmate, friends, coworkers, patients, or even strangers. Be very mindful of the actions of others. Learn boundaries and how to enforce them. Throughout my life, I’ve encountered numerous narcissistic individuals, including family members, friends, coworkers, patients, and even strangers. Recognize who embodies these traits and understand how you’ve been emotionally abused yourself. It’s a common occurrence, and it’s not your fault. We often fall into such patterns without realizing it.

If your twin flame makes you feel this way, acknowledge it and set boundaries. If it’s negatively affecting you, don’t allow them access to you. Remember, you might be meant to be in each other’s lives for a purpose, but prioritize your healing first. This is a part of the twin flame journey, and you need to successfully navigate this phase to reach physical union. Trust that what’s meant to be will find its way—this is destiny at work. Align with each other, knowing that both of you have wounds to heal and mirror each other’s pain. It’s a grueling process, but it’ll be worth it when you’ve both done the work. Healing is necessary for a loving, healthy relationship to blossom. Acceptance, emotional maturity, and understanding are key, along with less arguing and more supportive, honest communication. You deserve it.